Personal Finance 8, Lesson 50 – Why are Interest Rates Different for Different Loans?

Why are interest rates different for different loans?  Shouldn’t the rates be the same for every loan?  No.  In this essay I am going to talk about why interest rates are different for different loans.

There are three reasons why interest rates are different for different loans.  The first reason is collateral.  Collateral is risk management for the bank.  When someone loans money there is a risk that the person will not pay back the money.  So the person will put up something, if he/she does not pay back the loaner can sell the collateral to satisfy the loan.  For example, a mortgage is when a person borrows from the bank and puts up the house as collateral.  If the person cannot pay back the loan, the bank will repossess the house and sell it.

The second reason is time.  The longer a person borrows the money, the higher the interest rate.  The shorter the person borrows the money the lower the interest rate.  For example, if you borrow money for one month the interest rate will be low.  But if you borrow for one year the interest rate will be high.

The third reason is the person’s credit history.  If someone has bad credit history and an unstable job, their interest rate will be higher.  But if the person has good credit history and has a stable income, the interest rate will be lower.

As you can see, there are three reasons why interest rates are different for different loans.  Now that you know I hope that you will remember these if you ever need a loan.  But try to stay clear of loans, they can get stuck in an endless cycle of debt.

Thanks for reading!

History 8, Chinese History – The Song and Yuan Dynasties

In this essay I am going to write a brief summary of the Qidan Liao Dynasty to the Yuan Dynasty, which happened between 916 CE – 1368 CE.  This essay is based on the third chapter of the book, “History of China” by J.A.G. Roberts, Third Edition, 2011.

Introduction

After the fall of the Tang Dynasty, China fell into another period of disunity.  For 53 years, the North part of China was ruled by five dynasties and the South part of China was divided into ten kingdoms.

The Qidan Liao Dynasty (916 CE – 1125 CE)

The Qidan were a group of tribes, ancestors to the Xianbei (nomadic Chinese who lived in modern-day Mongolia).

In the 7th century the Qidan invaded Hebei (province near modern-day Beijing).  They were defeated severely and were forced to follow Chinese authority.  When the Tang authority started to collapse, the tributary relationship, which the Qidan had agreed to, turned into an aggressive military stance.  This is believed to be the spur that made the all the Qidan tribes unify as one.

Abaoji, the leader of one of the Qidan tribes, united all of the tribes and started the Liao Dynasty in 916 CE.  Abaoji adopted Chinese rule and set up his capital in present-day Liaoning (north-east province bordering North Korea and the Yellow Sea).  Abaoji recruited warriors from different tribes to be his bodyguards.  In 924 CE, Abaoji sent an expedition to the north west of China, which made the Uighurs subject to the Liao Dynasty.  In the same year Abaoji also overthrew the kingdom of Bohai. 

Before Abaoji’s death in 926 CE, he made it clear that he wanted to conquer northern China.

In 937 CE, the Shatuo Later Tang kingdom (a small dynasty that tried to rule after the Tang fell, they controlled most of Northern China, where Abaoji wanted to conquer), were having a succession dispute, the Qidan came and intervened.  The Qidan ended up having to sign over a strip of their land knowns as the Sixteen Prefectures and allowed themselves to be controlled by the Later Tang (also known by the name Jin).

In 947 CE, the Qidan tried to invade and control Jin territory for a few months.  They realized that they would not be able to hold the territories for long and fled to northern China.

The Qidan Liao ruled over part of north China and the lands beyond (Mongolia, North Korea and Russia), until 1125 CE, the year the Qidan Liao Dynasty fell.

The Qidan Liao lasted a long time, but their ruling system, known as ‘dualism’, caused tension between their north and south territories.  The northern territories were ruled with customs in the Qidan society, while the southern territories (whose capital was in modern-day Beijing, which was part of the Sixteen Prefectures), were ruled by Tang customs.

The Song Dynasty (960 CE – 1279 CE)

The Song Dynasty was founded by Zhao Kuangyin (later known as Emperor Taizu).  Zhao Kuangyin was the military leader of the Later Zhou Dynasty (951 CE – 960 CE).

Emperor Taizu was smart.  He knew he had to convince the provincial commanders of northern China to submit to him.  Instead of fighting on the battlefield, he presented honors and pensions for them.  He also created a loyal army for the dynasty. 

After Emperor Taizu’s death in 976 CE all of inner China, besides the two independent kingdoms in Zhejiang (a Chinese province near modern-day Shanghai) and Shanxi (a Chinese province near modern-day Beijing), and the parts of China ruled by the Qidan, were under Song reign.

Emperor Taizong (ruled from 976 CE – 997 CE), the brother of Emperor Taizu, took over as emperor.  He acquired the obedience of the Zhejiang and the Shanxi and formed an alliance with the Xi Xia state (formed in the Ordos region, modern-day Gansu).

In 979, Taizong tried attempted to conquer the Sixteen Prefectures, which belonged to the Qidan Liao at the time.  After almost being defeated near Beijing, Taizong tried two more times to invade into the Sixteen Prefectures.  It was not until 1004 CE, that the Song and the Qidan Liao came to a truce.  This truce was called the Treaty of Shanyuan.  It stated that the Qidan could keep the Sixteen Prefectures, and that the Song was required to pay for the military expenses the Qidan used to keep the Song out.  It has been said that this treaty was the “nearest thing to equality in Chinese history until modern times.”[i]

During the early Song period, scholars and officials were trying to improve their dynasty and start new reforms.  One of the more noticeable was Wang Anshi, a pupil of Fan Zhongyan (a man who increased the standard on examinations and increased the production of agriculture with his reforms).

During the time of Emperor Renzong (1022 CE – 1063 CE), Wang Anshi presented the emperor with an essay known as the “Ten Thousand Word Memorial”.  In this essay Wang Anshi expressed his concern for the current state of the empire (at that time a famous writer named Ouyang Xiu, was trying to form a Confucian party).  Wang Anshi also suggested that men should be placed in positions where they had special skills and that the emperor should do more than only oversee the government.  Emperor Renzong ignored these suggestions.  But Emperor Shenzong (1068 CE – 1085 CE), like Wang Anshi’s ideas and appointed him as Chief Minister, which Wang Anshi occupied until 1076 CE and reoccupied from 1078 CE – 1085 CE.

After being given the position of Chief Minister, Wang Anshi started many new reforms, one of the most noticeable ones in 1074 CE.  It was called the Tea and Horse agency.  The Chinese would pay tea for war horses from Tibet, this obviously saved the Chinese money, and it started a monopoly around the Sichuan tea industry.  The agency continued until 1126 CE when the Jin (Jurchen Jin Dynasty) captured most of north China.  This stopped the income of horses from Tibet and ruined the Sichuan tea industry.

In 1115 CE, the Song made an alliance with the Jurchen Jin and attacked the Qidan in an attempt conquer the Sixteen Prefectures.  In 1125 CE, the Jin overthrew the Qidan.  Towards the end of Song reign the Jin attacked the north of China and captured the Song’s emperor as prisoner.  The Jin forced the Song to flee south.  Because the Jin did not have power in the south of China they made an agreement with the Song, which involved the Song paying an abnormal amount of silver and silk.  With internal rebellions and fights with the Jin the Song fell in 1279 CE.

The Jurchen Jin (1115 CE – 1234 CE)        

The rule of the Jurchen Jin can be divided into three parts.  The time of dualism, this lasted until 1150 CE.  A time of sinicization (non-Chinese start using Chinese practices), and the period of decline, which started in 1215 CE.

When the Jin first started they adapted the practice of dualism from the Qidan Liao.  The Song tried to enforce their rule and power on the north part of Jin territory, which resulted in Jurchen ‘farmer-soldiers’ to head south and quell Chinese rebellions with harsh and brutal means.  This continued until 1142 CE when the Jin and the Song made a peace treaty.

From 1150 CE to 1215 CE, Jin emperors were carrying out reforms in hope to Sinicize their dynasty.  It started with Emperor Hailing (1150 CE – 1161 CE).  He set up the Jin capital in Yanjing (modern-day Beijing), cut down the power the Jurchen nobility could hold, and admitted Chinese and Qidan people into the ranks.  Emperor Hailing studied Chinese and followed certain Chinese customs, like drinking tea.  But he also separated himself from the Chinese in slight ways, like allowing public flogging of senior officials at court.

Hailing’s successor, Emperor Shizong (1161 CE – 1189 CE), tried to setback the sinicization by promoting the Jurchen language instead of Chinese, and prohibiting the people from wearing Chinese clothing and marrying Chinese people.  However, Shizong used a Chinese way of governing and employed thousands of Chinese officials.  After Shizong’s death in 1189 CE, the Jurchen culture was almost completely abandoned and sinicization continued.  By 1191 CE, the rule of not being allowed to marry a Chinese was lifted and the emperors of the Jin considered themselves as a genuine Chinese dynasty.

There were many causes to the fall of the Jin starting from 1194 CE when the Yellow River went over its banks.  The Southern Song also declared war against the Jin in 1206 CE.  Genghis Khan started to rise and attacked the Jin court from 1211 CE to 1213 CE.  The Xi Xia state also started a rebellion against the Jin.  With all of the threats surrounding them, the Jin moved their capital to Kaifeng (a city in the Henan province) in 1215 CE.

In 1232 CE, the Mongols, with their new leader, Ogodei, continued the attack on the Jin and besieged Kaifeng, which lasted for over a year.  The last Jin emperor tried to warn the Song about the ruthlessness of the Mongols.  Instead of listening the Song allied with the Mongols and attacked the Jin.  The dynasty ended in 1234 CE when the emperor committed suicide.

The Southern Song Dynasty (1127 CE – 1279 CE)

The Southern Song Dynasty was started by Gaozong who reigned from 1127 CE – 1162 CE.  He put the capital in Hangzhou (a city in the Zhejiang province) and started to reassert the Song’s way of ruling over the south of China.  Emperor Gaozong, at the beginning of his rule, did not have the military power suppress the rebellions and started a law known as ‘summoning to pacification’.  It stated that anyone who tried to rebel was given a choice, to surrender and become part of the imperial army, or to be caught and killed.

In the thirteenth century, Han Tuozhou, an emperor of the Song, heard reports of damage caused by the Yellow River’s flooding.  He thought that the Chinese under the Jin would rebel if provoked and invaded Jin territory in 1206 CE.  The invasion was not planned well and the people did not rebel, instead they raided the Song territory.  The fail of this plan led to the dismissal and execution of Han Tuozhou.

In 1208 CE, the Song and the Jin made a peace with each other.  By this point in time the Jin already knew the threat of the uprising Mongols.  The Song, however, knew nothing of the threat the Mongols posed to their dynasty.

In 1234 CE, the Song tried to reclaim Kaifeng and Beijing from Kublai Khan (Genghis Khan’s grandson).  The Mongols and the Songs fought for nearly two decades before the Mongols attacked the Song’s capital and ended the Song dynasty.

The Yuan Dynasty (1271 CE – 1368 CE)

Even though the Yuan Dynasty started in 1271 CE, the Mongol reign across China started in 1206 CE, when Genghis Khan unified all the steppe lands north of China.

After Genghis Khan’s death in 1226 CE, his third son, Ogodei, took over ruling the Mongol Empire.  Ogodei invaded Korea, ended the Jin dynasty, attacked Russia, and wreaked damage and destruction over states of eastern Europe.  It was only when Ogodei died in 1241 CE that the expansion of the Mongols halted.

The expansion resumed ten years later in 1251 CE, when Mongke (brother of Kublai Khan and grandson of Genghis Khan), took over and reigned.  Mongke did not do much conquering and let his brother, Khubilai, do most of the work. 

In 1260 CE, Khubilai took over and started ruling.  Khubilai established a capital in Kaiping (part of inner Mongolia, modern-day Shangdu).  Khubilai resumed the attack on the Southern Song in 1268 CE.  After a five year siege the Song finally fell, and the last members of the Song were defeated at sea.  Even though Khubilai won this battle, he had a few military setbacks.  In 1274 CE and in 1281 CE, Khubilai attempted to invade Japan but was driven back by the Japanese military and the weather.  On the second attempt in 1281 CE, the Japanese sent in their kamikaze forces which killed almost half of the Mongol force.

During the last few years of Khubilai’s life he became ill and had to decide who would succeed him.  In Mongol culture, a council will vote for khaghan’s (the person that is ruling) male relative.   But Khubilai considered himself as a Chinese ruler and tried to do it the Chinese way.  He chose his eldest son, Zhenjin, to succeed him.  But Zhenjin died in 1285 CE, and Khubilai died in 1294 CE.  It was then a rivalry between Temur, Khubilai’s second son, and the eldest surviving son.  It is said that rivalries like these contributed to the downfall of the Yuan.

Temur reigned from 1294 CE – 1307 CE, he continued to rule the way his father did.  But his successor, Khaishan, gained the throne after a violent fight and spent money extravagantly.   Khaishan was succeeded by Ayurbarwada, his brother, who reigned from 1311 CE – 1320 CE.  After his death the court split into two.  From the split two men emerged, Yesun Temur (reigned from 1323 CE – 1328 CE), and Tugh Temur (reigned from 1328 CE – 1333 CE).  The last Mongol emperor was Toghon Temur, who was a minor when he took the throne.  Toghon reigned from 1333 CE until 1368 CE when the Mongols fled from China.

From the lat 1340s and onwards the Yuan people were faced with hunger and drought.  The emperors lost all control over most Mongol territories.  In 1351 CE a peasant uprising led by a man named Liu Fotong weakened the government.  Toghon Temur was able to end this rebellion but was tired and running out of military forces.  The Yuan dynasty officially ended in 1368 CE, when the Ming attacked and forced the Yuan to surrender.

Conclusion

This is essay was about the Qidan Liao Dynasty, the Song Dynasty, the Jurchen Jin Dynasty, the Southern Song Dynasty and the Yuan Dynasty.  I hope you now have a basic understanding of what happened during those dynasties.  My next History essay will be about the early Ming and Qing Dynasties. 

Thanks for reading!


[i] A History of China by J. A. G. Roberts Page 82

English 8, Lesson 41 – Does Working With Others Lead to Better Results Than Acting as an Individual?

When we work with others do we act better as an individual?  Yes.  I have three reasons to prove this.

Reason one, when we work with others their ways tend to rub off on us and vice versa.  Sometimes this is a bad thing, but most of the time it is a good thing.  We might end of up changing some of our ways, making us a better person.  But sometimes we change out ways and become a worse person.  This is why you have to be careful when you choose the people you want around.

Reason two, things tend to more fun with people to help you, and the job tends to go faster with help.  For example, I was trying to make an advent calendar last year for Christmas.  It was taking a long time and I was getting really tired, my parents offered to help and we finished the calendar in half an hour.  It was fun to do it with my parents and it went way faster.

Reason three, working with people means making friends, and making friends means not being lonely.  As an only child homeschooler, it can get lonely.  Now that I have a phone and an amazing friend group I do not get lonely.  I have friends in my condo as well, so I am never alone or lonely (I am still deciding if this is a good or bad thing).

As you can see, working with people has benefits and can be a good thing.  For some people they think they can do everything on their own, for others they are introverted and do not like people.  Well we all need friends or other people in our lives besides our parents and pets.  Thanks for reading!

English 8, Lesson 50 – A Pipe of Mystery

“A Pipe of Mystery” is a short story by G.A Henty.  In this essay I am going to tell you about the plot and the theme of the story.

The story starts in a small house on Christmas Eve night.  Children are gathered around their uncle Colonel Harley.  They start asking him for one of his infamous stories even though it is very late.  Colonel Harleygives in and starts to tell the children a story from when he was deployed in the army.

The Colonel starts the story in Jubbulpore (a city in India), with his friend named Simmonds.  Colonel Harley describes the natives as aborigines with dark skin.  The local priests had the duty of keeping away tigers with incantations.  The Europeans did not believe that these priests could do anything and that all their chanting was rubbish.

The Colonel continues to relive the night a native woke him up saying that tiger had taken and killed a man.  Harley and Simmonds spent hours with the natives hunting for the tiger.  It was late in the afternoon when the tiger was spotted, Simmonds and Harley managed to track it down to the temple where the priest lived.  The men were able to shoot and kill the tiger, but not before it dislocated the priest’s arm.  Harley and Simmonds managed to get the priest to the hospital to get healed and promised to check on him soon. 

The two men were so busy it took them months until they could visit the priest.  By the time they got to the priest the natives said that he moved back to the temple.  Once at the temple the men asked the priest to give them a reading of their future.  The priest gave the men a pipe with opium in it.  Harley and Simmonds passed out from the fumes.  The priest woke them up and went back into the temple without an explanation of what happened.

Simmonds said that he dreamt he was in the mess hall eating with his fellow soldiers, when the natives started firing at them from outside.  He dreamt he was able escape and hide in a cellar in the kitchen.

Harley said that he dreamt the same, except he was riding away with a beautiful woman.  They were trying to escape from a body of rebels, when they reached a statue he pressed a small carving in the back.  The statue opened up and Harley and the woman ran in.

Both men agreed to not tell anyone else, they would be scoffed at and called idiots.  Years passed and eventually the two forgot about their dreams.  They were moved from Jubbulpore to Allahabad.  This is where Harley met a beautiful woman who looked vaguely familiar.

The woman’s name was May, and Harley and May became engaged.  News of a mutiny was going around, but no one believed it.

One night, while Harley and Simmonds were eating in the mess hall with their fellow soldiers the natives started to fire from the windows.  Simmonds realized that it was their dreams coming true and ran to the cellar and hid there for days.  Harley on the other hand, went to go find May.  Harley found May and rode away to find the statue, where the two hid there for four days.

Eventually, Harley, Simmonds, and May found British troops who rescued them and brought them to a camp.  Harley and May had a quiet wedding.  Simmonds made it out alive as well, but died years later in battle.

From reading the story I personally think that the theme was “don’t judge a book by its cover”.  None of the soldiers believed that the priests could do anything and that they were fakes.  But the “fake” priest gave Harley and Simmonds a vison, which saved their lives.  Without the information they were given from the dreams they could have died.  The story was set in the 1800s, at a time where the Europeans tend to look down upon other races.  Because of that I think that the other theme could be do not make assumptions of other cultures.  Every culture has its own practices and others should not look down upon it just because it is new and strange to them.

“A Pipe of Mystery” was one of the best short stories that I have read.  In my opinion, this is one of G.A Henty’s best stories.  I highly suggest it.  What do you think the theme of the story is?  Do you agree with my interpretation?  Thanks for reading!

Personal Finance 8, Lesson 45 – Getting in Shape for Less: How to Save Money on Athletics and Exercise

When children need to get fit they go outside and run around.  But when adults need to get fit, they do not have the energy, stamina, or time to go outside and run.  Adults go to the gym or swim or take classes when they need to get fit.  But these things can be quite costly.  So how do adults get fit and save their money?

One of the most expensive ways to get fit is to hire a personal trainer.  This may be one of the more effective and easy ways, but it can and will be very expensive.  An alternative is to go for a less expensive option like going for a run or jog around the neighborhood.  This works to strengthen your leg muscles and is 100% free.

But if you do not live in a place that is conducive for runs, going to the gym might be a good option.  That would mean buying a gym membership, but are gym memberships really worth it?  Of course gym memberships are useful, you can go to the gym and workout and you can get discounts on certain things.  But they can also be bad and costly.  When you get a membership you can go to the gym any time you want, but that does not mean you will.  You could end up not using the membership at all because you are too lazy or do not have the time.  In this case, you would be paying for the membership you will never use!

Another thing to think about is injuries and equipment.  Say that you go to the gym and push yourself too hard and get injured.  Sometimes all you need is bed rest and some soothing cream, but sometimes it might mean going to the hospital or clinic and having to pay those fees.  These fees could blow your budget that you set for yourself.  Or let’s say you want to work out but do not have time to go to the gym, so you buy your own equipment.  Dumbbells are stretchy bands are not very expensive and tend to be affordable.  But if you buy a treadmill for your house, this is expensive and could possibly break.  Fixing the item or getting a new one can be very costly.

Getting in shape can be very cheap or very expensive depending on what you do and where you do it.  Remember to never push yourself when exercising.  It could result in a very painful and expensive injury.  Try going for jogs around your neighborhood or getting a gym membership or maybe even sign up for a class!

Thanks for reading!

English 8, Lesson 46 – Is it Better to Care Deeply About Something or to Remain Emotionally Detached?

Should we get emotionally attached to something?  Or should we remain emotionally detached?

I do not know about you, but when I saw the topic the first thing that came to mind was spy movies.  You know how in spy movies the spies cannot have emotional attachment to anyone or anything.  Then someone comes into the spy’s life and he/she falls in love, or something sappy.

The reason the spies fall in love or start caring for something is because it is human nature.  As humans we start getting emotionally attached to things from a young age.  For example, I have a strong emotional attachment to one of my stuffed toys.  Humans cannot completely control their emotion sometimes, which makes them feel silly ways for someone.  All teenagers know what I am talking about 😉

I personally think that there is nothing wrong with getting attached to things.  Like I stated earlier, we start getting attached to things from a young age, we cannot help it.  I will admit, that getting attached to people or things can and will make you weak in some ways.  But that is not a bad thing.  Do not try to detach yourself from others so you cannot get attached.  It is not emotionally healthy, and sooner or later you will get attached to something.

For better or for worse, we get attached to things and we have to deal with it.  I do not think there is anything wrong with getting attached to things.  We all do it…unless you are a secret spy for the CIA.  In that case, get ready for the cliché spy movie scenario. 

Thanks for reading!

English 8, Lesson 40 – Should We Complain to Get What We Want?

As little kids, we used to complain, whine, and cry, to get something that we wanted from our parents.  We used to complain to get what we want, but now that we’re older we cannot do that.  But should we? Should we complain to get what we want?

Speaking from a child’s point of view, complaining seems like a good way to get something that I want.  But speaking from a more mature point of view, complaining to get what you want is annoying and immature. 

In my opinion, complaining to get what we want is one of the worst ways to convince someone to get you something.  But in some cases complaining to get what we want is essential.

For example, when babies need something they cry and scream.  If babies did not do this, parents would not know what their baby needs and something bad might happen.  But in most cases complaining is horrible.

Imagine an adult complaining to his/her boss for a raise.  Sounds pretty annoying, right?  Complaining usually does not take you anywhere besides getting a scolding from the other person.  So how do we get what we want?

I do not know about other people, but when I want something I do not complain or whine.  I ask nicely.  By asking nicely I mean use my baby voice and ask my Mom for something.  This obviously does not always work and I usually do not get what I want right away, but I do eventually.

I have learned from experience, that complaining does not get you anywhere.  If you complain to get things you want, stop.  Complaining to get what you want never works.  It destroys your reputation and is extremely annoying.  And if it does work, that means that the person is really tired of you and your voice.  If you want something try to work for it or prove to the other person that the thing you need is essential, without whining and complaining.  Trust me, I speak from experience 😉

Thanks for reading!

Personal Finance 8, Lesson 40 – How to Turn Your Phone into a Financial Tool

Phones.  One of the things that sparks many fights between tween/teenagers and their parents.  What if I told you there is a way to make phones something that your parents praise you for?

I know that watching YouTube or scrolling through Instagram or playing games on your phone sounds fun, and probably is more fun than what I am going to suggest.  But don’t you want your parents to leave you alone about your phone?

The best way to use your phone often without your parents freaking out at you is to turn it into financial tool!  Yes, yes, I know, it does not sound very fun.  But it can be very useful.  On your phone you can download apps to help you control and record your spending.  There are also apps that help you budget your money.  Or, if these apps sound too scary and complicated, you can use the notes app that comes with the phone and write down your budget and how much you spend.

If you do this and tell your parents they will leave you alone about your screentime, and maybe even be proud of you for taking initiative with your money!

All jokes aside, your phone can be a very useful tool for tracking your financial activity.  There are so many apps out there that you can use, you can only use the notes app on your phone if you want!  Put your phone to good use, besides just destroying our brains and eyes on random apps.

Thanks for reading!

English 8, Lesson 39 – Do We Emphasize Independence Too Much? And are We Afraid to Admit that We Need Each Other?

When you become a tween or teenager your parents start emphasizing independence.  They say that we need to become more independent because “we are not children anymore.”  Is society emphasizing independence too much?  And are we too afraid to admit we need each other?

I do not think that we are emphasizing independence too much.  Whether I want to accept it or not, I am eventually going to become an adult and cannot rely on my parents anymore.  But I do think that sometimes people are so eager to be independent, that when they need help they are too afraid to admit they need people in their life.

I think that you need to find a balance between independence and dependence.  It is good to be independent and be able to take care of yourself, but it is also good to have people in your life that can help you if you ever need someone.

For example, every teenager looks forward to gain their independence and get their own house and have their own house rules.  But with independence comes with problems, like taxes, getting a job, paying for groceries, and various bills.  For a young adult (college students), this can all seem big and scary.  In this case, it is probably best to ask your parents for help and advice.

I think that it is important to emphasize independence, but it is also good for parents to make their children feel like they could go to them if they ever need help.  Some parents do not set an environment where their child feels safe to go to their parents for help.  This usually makes the child develop unhealthy habits, like keeping their problems to themselves instead of asking for help.

As you can see, it is important to be independent, but it also does not hurt to rely on others once in a while.  You have to find a balance between the two.  If you do I am positive that it will make your life a lot easier.

Thanks for reading!

English 8, Lesson 38 – Do We Need Advice When We Are Not Willing to Listen?

When should we receive good advice?  When we are not willing to listen?  Or is good advice always welcome?

When we get upset or angry, is that the best time to receive good advice?  Well, I know that when I get mad I do not listen to anyone.  But sometimes, certain things my parents tell me stick.  But it can vary from person to person.  Do you listen to people when you are angry?  Or do you block the world out and fume on your own?

I think a better question to ask is: do you think people will listen to advice you give them when they are angry?  The answer to that is probably, “no.”  Let’s be honest, no one will listen to advice you give them when they are mad.

So…people do not listen to your advice when you are mad and vice versa.  That means that you should probably give advice to someone when they are in a better mood, right?  I think that is a better idea, the person will be more receptive to you and might actually listen.

Of course, giving advice to someone when they are mad probably will not work, but you never know what words will stick and what words will not.

In my opinion, you should only give advice when asked or in a dire situation.  If you do not know the person well, try not to give too much advice.  You do not want to come off as a know-it-all, and you definitely do not want to become their personal therapist.  But try not to give advice all the time.  It will start to get annoying.

What do you think?  Should advice be given when someone is angry or calm or when they ask for it?  Do you agree with me or have your own opinion about when to give advice? 

Thanks for reading!

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